Why Do We Keep Doing Things We Know Are Harmful? One of the most common questions people ask when struggling with addiction is: “If I know it is hurting me, why can’t I stop?” Whether the addiction involves alcohol, drugs, Read more
Why Do We Sometimes Feel Like Different People? Have you ever found yourself thinking: “Part of me wants to leave my job, but another part is terrified?” Or perhaps: “Part of me knows this relationship is unhealthy, but another part Read more
For eleven years, people have come to me carrying problems. Anxiety that won’t quiet down. Relationships that keep breaking in the same place. A career that looks fine on paper but feels hollow inside. And for eleven years, I’ve done Read more
I often talk about the twin-flame relationship with clients because it offers an important framework to talk about relationship dynamics with our partners. The twin-flame is not a ‘woo-woo’ concept as often understood but is a mirror relationship that reflects Read more
Long-term, or twin-flame, relationships can break down not because of a lack of love, but because of past primary-carer attachment trauma in early childhood. Relationships can get locked into repeated patterns of conflict, withdrawal, rescue or victimhood despite the best Read more
In Part I we explored some of the things adults, children and young people talked about in the therapy room about family life. In this blog we explore some of the issues parents talk about, specifically, in regards to parenting, Read more
Children, young people and adults explore many issues in the therapy room and they sometimes talk about parenting styles. In this article I look at some of the subjects, themes and issues that come up that I hope will generate Read more
The Buddhist Metta is a prayer for healing for all living beings and the self. It is a relaxing meditation and helps instil states of calmness and relaxation. It is one of the most wonderful prayers I have ever learned Read more
Sometimes in healing work old wounds from childhood come up. They can manifest as deep self-hatred, depression, self-criticism, anger and trauma memories. Sometimes they may appear as externalised criticism to loved ones around us. We may have addiction issues that Read more
